2 People 1 Relationship

As the Moving or Cleaning saga rages on it got me thinking about how relationships often have two personalities.

Our neighbors have the dynamics we do. One is a little more high strung, note that is from my perspective. My other half is apt to be a bit bitchy to get things done. I'm more inclined to be calm and try to reason with people.

The neighbors got a new apartment. So far all I have gotten is excuses, but I'm curious to see if my relaxed manner actually gets the problem fixed. Although I'm sure my GF would rather be moved into a bigger apartment.

Having two different personalities can cause conflicts or complement. Which happens really depends on the individuals. I've had to learn to not criticism when the other is being what I feel is impatient and bitchy. Took me a while to sit back and let her do her thing. More importantly be thankful when her method works, no matter how we get to the result, we both need to be respectful.

Yes, sometimes her strong response may backfire. Yes, I get walked on. But we never really know which tack would be best, we just need to trust each other and not do the "I told you so." Avoid the knee jerk reaction of "If only you'd done it my way."

You don't know, she doesn't know for a fact if changing methods would have made the result different. What we do know is we can control whether or not one of us is sleeping on the couch. Whether the original problem now becomes a problem between the two of you.

Anyone else in a Mutt and Jeff, Stanley and Ollie or Tom and Jerry relationship?

Everyone wants happiness; nobody wants to suffer. Many problems around us are a mental projection of certain negative or unpleasant things. If we analyze our own mental attitude, we may find it quite unbearable. Therefore, a well-balanced mind is very useful and we should try and have a stable mental state.
~ Dalai Lama