Dating Slut

Gay men never have a problem with this so I'm not sure why Gay women do. Especially if you are meeting people online I recommend dating more than one person at a time. I'm not saying sleep with everyone, that is up to you, but dating yes.

It's hard to find a match when dating online. When someone shows an interest or responds to your requests, act on it. I'm also OK with not making a point of telling your date you are not exclusive. It should be understood that you are not a couple after a few dates.

Disclosing you are sleeping with others I'm on the fence about. But you need to disclose when you had your last tests. Be safe and be smart, have "the talk" before sex.

If it's been a few years since you've seen a gyno/doc may want to get an exam. Get an AIDS test, most insurances will cover it. Also there are many clinics that provide free tests. Don't think that since you are a lesbian you're safe.

When should you decide if you are dating or not? I can't give you a definite time. It depends on the people, the number of dates, how the dates went etc. At the very least, give it a few weeks.

WARNING: If on the first or second date someone asks if you are dating other people, be honest. This is not an appropriate topic, but there are always exceptions. Watch their reaction.

Do they start asking questions about your other dates? Are there constant digs about anyone else? Are they constantly talking, stressing, proving they are better for you? Real big red flags include, calling all the time, calling often in one day and showing up at your house when not invited. Worse, they surprise you at work for dinner or lunch. Don't mistake someone checking up on you for cute gestures of how much they like you.

I've done this only a few times and my best advice is be honest. If they ask a bit too early, again tell them, but watch out. Especially with online dating, realize people may see if you are still going online. It won't help by lying about it.

Also, if there is a high chance you'll see each other at the bar or just out and about, you need to tell them. Don't rub it in,"I'm seeing Sally Friday." Just say your busy, and again, if they start interrogating you, remind them you've only had a few dates and make a note.

Eddie: [shouting] I DON'T WANT MORE CHOICE, I JUST WANT NICER THINGS.
~ Jennifer Saunders (Absolutely Fabulous)