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Did you get a card last night, but not really an invite to call? I'm not going to give you any sage advice as to how long to wait to call. Hopefully during the discussion, before the business card exchange, a tentative time was set to get together again. If not it's hard to tell.

It happens when you're not single too. Don't feel alone in this dilemma. Recently I got a few cards, but with no intent for anyone to call. One person mentioned their Facebook page about 5 times. Not sure if this was an invitation, but after the sixth time, I finally said I'm on Facebook too. The exchange literally was, "Hey I'm on Facebook. Here's my card, if you want to add me as a friend."

We exchanged cards, but never agreed to meet. Now I have the phone number and email but, I'm not calling to see if they want to have coffee. I sent the "add friend" request and it was accepted. I'm getting invited to events. That's pretty much what we agreed on, if there is another "event" one of us hears about we'll let the other know via Facebook. That is why it's called social networking, not social interaction.

This translates into dating, how? Usually a card means call me, but if you're not sure, Facebook can be an easy out. I think most everyone is on it, especially anyone under 35.

Singles under 35 will probably have a real hard time talking to you without checking their phone at least twice. Most will even say, I'm not txting, just checking out Facebook. Dividing their attention for one person is rude, but ignoring to keep in touch with many, is not. If the person talks about Facebook and you get a card without the usual, call me. I believe this is passive aggressive, contact me. In other words, everyone is a damm bottom and you have to make the first concrete move.

Try adding them as a Facebook friend. It's the first move. After that, see if they contact you or write on your wall. Just like online dating if no response, clean cups move down. Hopefully you'll at least hear about more events and not just added to her Mafia.

A few wall posts or comments probably means, she wants to see you again, but only as a friend. Who knows? Maybe she is undecided and wants to chat a few more times as a non-date/in a group, first.

Either way, friend with potential or not, the more people you know the more parties and events are in your future. Also once you get to the party, you'll know more people.

Are we friends or is just Facebook?
~ me

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